Wednesday, July 28, 2010

XXY: Living Gendered

Today once again I was reminded how focused the average person is into attempting to speak to other people in America. Every conversation hinges on what SEX the person is. When someone looks at me, and cannot decide if they are talking to a male or a female person, there starts a pause. And this pause can take quite a long time.

Some days I feel playful, and when they respond say male and address me as Sir, I'll change my response very subtly and leave them looking confused (Oh, I'm sorry .. didn't realize you were a woman.....). But then there are days like today where I'm waiting for cup of Hot Chocolate, its been a long day, I'm tired and really I just want the sweet chocolate and to collapse onto something soft; But invariably (the mask slips what can I say, its tiring) someone decides they didn't understand what I tried to present (male) and there needs to be a determination of what SEX I am before they will hand over the already paid for, afore mentioned sweet chocolate drink.

Why is it so hard for people in the USA to understand that the constitution clearly says right in the first paragraph, "the pursuit of happiness"? Why do they care so much what SEX I or anyone else is... is it perhaps because our language is so focused on gender that we cannot hold a conversation without first knowing the SEX of the person we are talking to in the first or second person... she, her, him, his... Several great minds Fausto-Sterling another others come to mind, have suggested adding more articles to the English language. And I'm sure someone has suggested a gender neutral pronoun.

Would that work, a gender neutral pronoun to replace him, her, his, she, he, etc... ze. Could we dare to simplify the language so that all conversations begin from a common point and to neuter the language so that you don't have to know whats under the coat; You can still be polite and not care about someone's SEX?

Can you help Ze ?

Thankyou Ze.

Excuse me Ze, can I help you?

Ze could easily substitute for man, boy, girl, woman, child, him, his, her, she, he, and ... IT. Strike down the language that binds us, and we can remove the harsh necessity of confrontation.

Ze feels this would be a good action to take, the de-genderizing of the English language. Ze would like for others to consider such an action. Ze would like the Hot Chocolate now, without another lecture on how Ze doesn't look perfectly female. Ze would most like to avoid another long diatribe on why Ze should wear lipstick so other women wouldn't have such a hard time resolving if Ze is female or not. Ze would really like the hot chocolate now, that was paid for 20 minutes ago... and Ze is certain that the other customers Ze, Ze, Ze, and Ze would prefer you to stop thinking in this asinine form of english that requires knowing Ze's sex before providing the drink rapidly cooling in Ze's paws. See, Ze applies to you too. NOW GIMME HOT COCOA!

Ze thanks for short moment, and suggests finding a new place to get sweet Hot Chocolate in a more timely fashion.

Ze regrets that Ze, has no interest in wearing lipstick as some sort of a flashing neon sign to indicate gender for the blind.

Signed, Ze

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